Josie Sanders

Being an Extroverted Introvert

Josie Sanders
Being an Extroverted Introvert

Often times when taking a personality test, the biggest trait people look for is whether they are an Introvert or an Extrovert. But for some reason there is always some negative connotation that comes along with the word introvert. Everyone wants to be labeled as the fun, outgoing extroverts of the world and they are sometimes embarrassed to tell others that they are actually introverts. After all, who would want to be an introvert? They are socially awkward weirdos that hate having fun, right?? *Hint the sarcasm*

The truth is, there is so much gray area in between and no, being an introvert does NOT mean you hate all social interaction or are socially awkward by any means. There is a spectrum that everyone's personality falls on, with introvert and extrovert being on opposite ends of the extremes. Almost all of us fall somewhere along this line and many people are actually very close to the middle! At the end of the day, it all comes down to how we as a human regain our energy. Some do it by being alone, others need to be surrounded by people to feel that way instead.

My entire life I have known I was an introvert, but I always felt like that was such an extreme term to label myself as. I mean I love meeting new people and I have no fear of speaking out loud to a large group. If anything, I am always the outspoken one! In fact, I have always been someone to be the first to participate in school activities and I have never really been afraid of making myself look like a fool in front of others (haha). A lot of this has to do with confidence and the fact that I really do love sharing my knowledge and passions with others.  BUT I have many exceptions that keep me from being an extrovert. 

I have always been Miss Independent. I never have had very many friends by personal choice. I am happiest with a small group of 2 or 3 people that I can truly trust and put a lot of energy in to. Having a large group of friends and being a social butterfly to me has always felt draining. That is because I thrive and get my energy by being alone or with only a few other people around me. These are the qualities that make me an introvert!

It wasn't until recently, when I heard my professor use the term "Extraverted Introvert". When she said it, it was like my entire world finally made sense. OF COURSE I am an extroverted introvert. I love speaking in front of others and being around lots of people, but at the end of the day I need my alone time to re-energize. After hearing this term, I knew I had to share it with others because it is something I feel like so many can relate to!

I feel as though many creative-minded people in professions like mine find themselves caught in between the two personality traits. We love putting ourselves out there regardless of what others think. We love to connect with new people and share our passions. But, we always will need time to ourselves to really get our creativity flowing to get our best work done!

I posted about being an Extroverted Introvert on my instagram story recently and was overwhelmed by the responses I got from so many people feeling the same! Just remember that it is so important to embrace who you are! There is nothing wrong with being an introvert! It is also important to realize that you will never change how your body gets your energy. BUT you don't always have to be that "extreme" label and quite frankly, the extremes aren't always healthy. If you are a VERY shy person, you can always improve on conquering your fears and becoming more confident with others. At the end of the day you will still be an introvert, but you could be closer to the middle of the spectrum instead! AND for those of you who are extreme extroverts, I challenge you to be more independent. You can't always rely on others to make you feel happy, so learning to create that energy yourself at times is always a helpful tool to have!

I hope you guys found this post interesting and helpful! Love you all!

XO Josie